We will adapt.

Why do you ask questions to which I can’t answer simply?

I had a lot of names growing up. “The problem child“, “Black Sheep.” My headmaster at my private school, stood me up in front of the same class that had been with since elementary school and pointed with his ridiculous pointer to all the things he didn’t think belonged at that school. ” slut, whore…

I wouldn’t even say the Lords name in vain.

I was a good kid. This circle Im in now doesn’t know what a “problem child” is. They don’t know the heartache that’s out there, the depth of brokenness in the dark and scary places.

There’s a song by my favorite band Twenty One Pilots. The bridge states:

I will carry all your names, and I will carry all your shame.

It just repeated over and over again building in strength and I was set free-from those crippling identities.

Now I will adapt. I’m not a black sheep, I’m a family curse breaker. Us Wide mouth, fierce friends are the superheroes that save family relationships and heal brokenness.

Our world rotates in circles until somebody speaks up, and that is the “Problem child.” We’re only a problem because we speak the truth; people don’t like that.

I live in a patriarchal family which I like, and have been blessed to be raised and lead by steadfast, father and mother.

But I’ll argue now with my dad. He’s not used to it because when I left here all I wanted to do is please him. I had no doubt I was supposed to leave and put distance between my family and I.

He wasn’t just upset, I saw my dad angry for the first time in two decades. Suddenly I was the problem child again not just to my dad. To Everyone around me. I had disrupted the comfortable flow that had been following the same path for decades. They said I’d be back within three weeks with my tail between my legs, which shows you how they thought of me.

I want you to understand that this was not just my parents. They are wonderful people.

Oh and by the way I didn’t return for 18 years.

I will adapt.

I have adapted

Don’t label your children or friends. I’m not talking medical labels, though some people don’t like those either, but I’m talking about labels that make us who we are in our souls. Set your children on the right path; one where they have confidence, self love, faith, love for the unlovely and she respect.